Should You Have A Small Wedding? 5 Things To Consider | Brei Olivier


Should You Have A Small Wedding? 5 Things To Consider

Maybe you’ve been wondering if you should have a small wedding instead of the traditional, large to-do. Are you stuck trying to decide between the two?

Making the decision to elope isn’t easy & it’s a very intentional choice to have a small wedding day. Society puts an expectation on us to have a large wedding with everyone there. And let’s face it – big weddings just aren’t for everyone. And that’s ok. It’s better to go the direction that will bring you more joy! Scroll down for five things to consider that’ll help you make the best decision.

Couple has a small wedding in New Orleans on the Cabrini Bridge over Bayou St John in Mid City

You feel pressured to have a certain type of wedding that doesn’t really appeal to you.

Maybe you don’t want giant centerpieces and all the details, and you especially don’t want the headache of planning and putting it all together or maybe your family has a lot of drama and the dynamic literally could not work out on a day like that. Whatever your reason, if you just can’t see yourself having a big, to-do wedding, that’s totally fine. They’re not for everyone. I think small weddings are absolutely amazing!

The idea of being the center of attention in a huge group of people makes you cringe.

Does the thought of saying some of the most intimate words you’ve ever spoken in front of a packed venue or cathedral make you feel a little bit faint? Will you feel like you have to “perform” for all of your guests the whole day? If you feel that then a small wedding or elopement where you’re free to relax and be yourself might just be for you.

You imagine a spontaneous wedding day that is just about you.

During traditional weddings, you can expect to set aside 30-45 minutes for formal photos¬†and then friends and family always want a photo with the bride and groom at the reception. While that’s very sweet – it takes a lot of time away from you just being able to enjoy your wedding day. If you’re picturing something think of your day as being more intentional, intimate, and personal, then you might want to consider having a small wedding.

¬†You don’t want to have to plan all the details of a big wedding.

A big wedding means a big vendor list. A florist, a planner, someone to provide the tables, a caterer, bartenders and servers, the chairs, and the linens. A hairstylist, a makeup artist, a big house to fit all of your bridal party. A band. Decor. A getaway car. You might feel like it’s just all too much. You’re not wrong! Planning a wedding can take away from the actual experience of being engaged and turns what should be such a FUN season of your life into something hectic and stressful so we totally get it if you want to forgo all of the planning of a big wedding and stick to having a smaller and more intimate gathering.

You love to travel

Do you dream of saying your vows somewhere epic? Maybe it’s during sunset on a Hawaiian beach or sunrise in a hot air balloon in Sedona. Getting married is a great reason to travel. It’s the first stop of your wedding + honeymoon adventure!

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